Articles and videos appear regularly online, along the lines of how to “destroy” the argument of someone who does not believe in Christianity. When I see these I cringe, and they sadden me. The goal of a follower of Jesus is not to “destroy” someone else, it is to win them. Our heart’s desire is not to win an argument, but to win a soul. To do this, it is important that we consider the importance of attitude in apologetics.

Approach others in humility. If we view others as adversaries, rather than people who have been created in the image of God, we will likely be unable to have a productive conversation. An attitude of humility can help foster dialogue.

Be a good listener. Try to discover and understand how people have arrived at the positions they hold. Everyone has a story and if you can understand their perspective, it will be easier to engage them with the truth.

Don’t seek to argue, seek to communicate. There is a significant difference. Make an effort to have your ideas heard, not just your voice. Communication is a two way effort and if you are humble and listen to others, they will be more likely to listen to you, and genuine communication can take place.

Ask good questions and carefully challenge presuppositions. Good questions can cause someone to consider why they hold to the idea they have. Sometimes when carefully challenged, people will see certain ideas as false. You may be able to help someone see a wrong viewpoint, by asking the right questions.

Trust God with the outcome. God is the only one who can ultimately change someone’s heart. He can open blind eyes, and enable people to see the light of the Gospel in the glory of Christ. Have a good attitude, emulate Jesus, and God can use you as His ambassador!